Before the nuns and a priest came to Nukunonu, me and my older sister could read and write our first names. Dad was my first teacher and my first Tokelauan School Principal.
He was also my inspiration and my rock.
Dad was a loving, caring father but very strict. He taught me and my older sister how to behave, respect the older people and to show our good manners.
He even taught us how to fight, how to defend ourselves and how to stick up for each other. He taught us how to live in the world.
As we got older things changed. I chose my own friends and so did my sister. But Dad's justice always prevailed.
Here are the rules Dad wanted us to follow:]
- Do not miss the morning mass
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Do not miss the evening prayer at church everyday.
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Be home by 6pm for the family rosary.
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Finish your jobs before the rosary.
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Make sure you do your homework.
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Make sure you help your mother.
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No answering back or arguing with your mother.
There was a heavy punishment for breaking those rules. Dad used a stick or a 'paddler' or a thick rope to kung fu us, especially me. My other siblings listened well so they hardly had any kung fu by Dad.
But me! I acted like 'The Terminator'. And the more I got kung fu from Dad the more ideas I learned. For example - I learned a few moves and how to karate!
The last time he used the canoe's paddlers to flipflop me he was shocked because I used what I had learned to defend myself. I even did a bit of kick boxing with my left leg.
Suddenly Dad dropped the paddler and stared at me.
Then he said 'Meli, I never want to do that to you because you are only a girl.'
He didn't use the paddler much after that.
Dad was proud of me and my sister because we were doing well at school. He used to help us with our homework, except the English. Dad didn't know much English. He told me he wanted to be a radio operator.
As I mentioned before, Dad was my first teacher. He even told me about the birds and the bees. (My mother told me a different story!).
Even now Dad's teaching is useful to me. But I don't use his justice with my own children because I was born in a different side of this world.
In the end my Dad was a loving human being. He was my first teacher and I am proud to be his daughter.